Thursday, June 26, 2008

ARE YOU A HATER?




When I was young, in the summer time, my big brother and his friends would go around the neighborhood picking fights for me, everyone that he found, he would run home grab me and we would do our business, he had much enjoyment making other people feel bad, and feel pain, and quite frankly, he love to watch his sis knock some rounds down, I really didn't enjoy it, just did what my big bro said, Now that I think about it, I couldn't even imagine what they told those girls, that would make them want to fight me, but every time I fought, I won. Until one day, I was minding my own business, when my brother and his friends came in the house, we've found someone who thinks they can go rounds with you, of course, we went to find out..

I will never forget that fight, I was cremated. She was soo much bigger than me, and I was black and blue from head to toe. I would never get in trouble for fighting until I lost that 1 time, I can't remember if they just didn't know about it, cuz I came home clean, or that they was glad that I could kick some buttocks,but boy did I get into trouble, we were going swimming to a way sweet swimming pool, and I was uninvited, and you don't need to know the rest, but that was the last time I ever threw a punch again. ( except for me and my sisters scrap meets) :)

We went to the public swimming pool today, all by my lonesome, I am getting good at handling my tribe all by my self.. While we were there, I was playing with my kids in the pool, while all the other moms, sat on the side of the pool chatting and gossiping away.

I came across this group of women, we were playing next to them, and one of my kids splashed them, (not on purpose of course), and if it was, who bleepin' cares, your at the SWIMMING POOL right?

I felt my ears burning, and my nose was a itchin', and sure enough, I was overhearing them trash on me and my kids. Trash on me all you want, but when I comes to my children, the ninja comes a fighting. Do you want to know what they said, here it goes- #1 BEEP "omg, how many children does she think she needs to have anyway? #2 BEEP BEEP "I don't know but , but look she paid the price, she doesn't have a body anymore". #3 BEEP BEEP BEEP stated " She can't even control her kids".

I thought I was going to die, I thought to myself," Oh, say one more thing, and I will Kungfu Panda you right in your -----. Just as I was going to open my BIG not so shy mouth, I heard some children running over to them, I looked at them, and thought, Whatevvv- As I overheard their not so nice conversation with their children, and the mother actually raising her hand up to hit this child, it dawned on me that I didn't need to say a word, I won that fight hands down...

I am not the perfect mother, I definitely don't have the perfect body, but everyday my children know that they are my #1. I won because I know deep down that Heavenly Father loves me know matter what I look like, I do not need to look good for the lifeguards at the swimming pool, I don't need to explain myself to anyone but the ones I love, and I defiantly treat my children a lot better than what I heard today. I strive to uplift my children, not put them down.

After fighting so many times, it became easy, I became cocky, I became prideful, and confident, until that one fight, I got what was coming to me, I paid the price.

Those women will never know what I was going to say to them, they will walk away, easy, cocky, and prideful, and confident, but they will somehow get what is coming to them, THEY WILL PAY THE PRICE sooner or later.

So for being a good girl today, turning the other cheek, I think I deserve one wish- here it goes--- I wish for sooner, than later.-

18 coments:

Kristen said...

Way to go, Devri! You rock!

Kristen said...

Hey, I love how you can see who has updated their blogs. How did you do that?

samiam said...

I love the mighty you! I have never been in a fight but I have no problem telling someone they are rude or whatever, I can only take so much. That is awesome that you didn't have to say a word but you got the last word. =) I like it, you should be proud!

Holly H. said...

Good for you Devri! You should be proud of yourself! :)

Becky said...

I love it. Thanks for the example. Usually the one trashing on me is me, though. :( How do I beat myself up?

MiaKatia said...

I am proud of you for turning the other cheek and being a great mom to your kids. I am really proud of you for being brave with your whole tribe in tow.

Kristie said...

I've been throwing too many punches lately (all in my head - a few mouthed wise cracks( , my adrenaline kicks in and I just want to teach the world a lesson. I have a husband who calms me, thank goodenss. I've noticed now how my children are quick to react and not always wisely, so it's good you're doing this while they're young!

Julia Harps said...

devs
I had a comment once said about my family when I was at the beach and it hurt. They were verbally spitting on my most sacred possesions. I never said anything because I was in shock but I replayed it over and over as to what I would have said if only I had been a faster thinker. YOu did the right thing. YOu rose above it. way to be a good mother and example to your kids.

palmtree8 said...

Wow that was very well put. I am proud of you to be able to have such self-control. It takes a lot and you have it girl!

Amy said...

Devri- I wish I had gotten to know you better when we worked together but I am so glad the I know you now. Do you go to the same pool I do because I think that the same moms are at every pool in the valley. We should get together and take ALL our kids to the pool. I will gladly let those loosas know whats what. Ok just kidding. I probably wouldnt but I would be right by you proudly swimming with my kids ignoring their skin-cancer skinny butts. Haha. I love it!

Family said...

Ladies adn gentle men... In this corner we have a wondrful awesome righteous woman who (believe me) soes not take crap from anyone.... and in this corner we have white trashy worldly women who think they are God's gift! You Rock Dev I love you!

Alice Wills Gold said...

I think you should have thrown a punch or two and watched the cowards run away.

Why do women have to be so rude?

And, we are so on the same page about loving our kids first and foremost.

I feel sorry for the insecure women of the world....and, I feel so obligated to let them know that they are insecure...I don't think I would have been able to keep my mouth shut..

I think I would have walked right up to them and said, "Hey, I heard you guys talking, when are you going to graduate from High School...I must be so much older than you. I haven't had a conversation like that in years."

Amy said...

Devri-
I think it would have been funny to watch you "wrastle" them down right onthe sun deck...but you did do the right thing. Think of another way you beat them... they were too busy chatting it up and didn't put sunscreen on their kids and your kids don't burn so hardy har har har. Plus your kids are much prettier than theirs so double HAR! I liked this post... good job!

Holly H. said...

Hi Devri, you can totally change up my blog! Yours is soooo cute. I can't wait to see what you do! :)

Cole said...

I love it! I'm sure that other women talk about me and how crazy I am running around getting dirty with my kids(I'm all tomboy, I just dress up one in a while) but you know, someday those women will forget me, or at least that moment, but my kids never will. And your kids wont forget you and that is the most important thing ever!

Mother Goose said...

ok,I have reacted both ways so I would have to be there. I am one to look the other way but if my child innocently splashed someone and they commented loud enough to hurt my child. I would have said, excuse me, it was an accident and we are at the pool. If you don't want to be splashed move. I have been blessed or cursed with a very sharp tongue and quick witt. 98% of the time, it is quick witted humor but if I am hurt the tongue tends to slice. On both accounts it is good for my children to see how to handle rude people. You can handle it with humor and witt or you can handle it directly and succint. I allow the other person to decide which way it should go. I want them to have the tools and know how to handle any situation and not be walked over. After all, I figure if I still have to repent for my thoughts I should at least control the thoughts or tell it how I see it. I am with you. Offend me all you want. I could care less. Mess with my goslings and you will have a whole can of woop butt on you! In all seriousness, I would have wanted to pimp slap her! (I never had before) but that might have been a good time.

irmaJ said...

Not only are we who have read your blog proud of you, but I love it when God shows up and does what you wanted to do. Let Him defend you and it speaks volumes. You screamed the ultimate example of self control to your children, teaching them that the words of your mouth can hurt, but choosing to control your words is even greater. The thing is that you saw and heard women who have heart issues and it showed in their words and their actions. God help their children to see what love is really supposed to sound and look like. Good Job!

Renee said...

Best post ever, hands down.